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Dare to Believe
By: Author Unknown
EVERYBODY KNOWS ...
You can''t be all things to all people.
You can''t do all things at once.
You can''t do all things equally well.
You can''t do all things better than everyone else.
Your humanity is showing just like everyone else''s.
SO ...
You have to find out who you are, and be that.
You have to decide what comes first, and do that.
You have to discover your strengths, and use them.
You have to learn not to compete with others,
Because no one else is in the contest of "being you."
THEN ...
You will have learned to accept your own uniqueness.
You will have learned to set priorities and make decisions.
You will have learned to live with your limitations.
You will have learned to give yourself the respect that is due,
And you''ll be a most vital mortal.
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DARE TO BELIEVE ...
That you are a wonderful, unique person.
That you are a once-in-all-history event.
That it''s more than a right, it''s your duty, to be who you are.
That life is not a problem to solve, but a gift to cherish.
And you''ll be able to stay one up on what used to get you down.
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I love my job, I love no pay!
I love it more and more each day.
I love making tea and biscuits galore,
Social workers, I simply adore.
I love my house and its location; I never get to have a vacation.
I love my furniture, drab and grey, and piles of paper that grow each day!
I think my job is really swell, there's nothing else I love so well.
I love to work with other carers, I love their leers, and jeers, and sneers.
I love my computer and its software; I hug it often though it won't care.
I love each program and every file. I’d love them more if they worked a while. I’m happy to be here. I am. I am.
I'm the happiest carer in the world, I am. I love this work, I love these chores. I love the meetings with deadly bores.
I love my job - I'll say it again - I even love those friendly men.
Those friendly men who've come today, in clean white coats to take me away!!!!!
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“Imagination”
Imagine a new understanding
We’ve waited patiently now for years
The pain we’ve suffered through STIGMA
Has created a river of tears
Imagine holding our heads up high
No more whisperings-secrets or lies
Lets bare the soul of Mental Distress
No more need for it’s meagre disguise
Imagine that Carer’s talk openly
We don’t hide behind assumed names
We talk about loved ones with pride and respect
Long gone are the feelings of shame
Imagine a new understanding
Equal amounts of compassion
Get well cards-flowers-comforting words
Will never again be on ration
Imagine that reporters change the way that they write
Words like Schitzo and Psycho are finally kept out of sight
Imagine a new understanding
No more alienation from the norm
Imagine that new generations
Are educated from the day they are born
Imagine our neighbours welcoming us
No more protests as to where we reside
Social inclusion won’t be an illusion
Imagine the lift to our pride
It’s time 4 change it’s time for the truth
To relieve decades of painful frustration
Imagine we make this a reality
Not a figment of IMAGINATION.
Georgina Wakefield
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Life after Death |
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Life after Death
Now I''m retired
And lost my wife
What shall I do
With the rest of my life?
I''ve been thro'' the mill
And suffered the pain
I''ve learnt about stress
Frustration and strain.
I''ll use the knowledge
Now I''ve passed the test
To help all those
Who are lost and bereft.
My love has flown
To her celestial nest
My beloved spouse
Is now at rest.
My heart was dead
My brain distraught,
Full of sorrow
I cared for nought.
But then a voice
From deep inside
Said "Love one another"
Let me be your guide.
My heart is now full
Of the joy I can give
To those who have suffered
And need a reason to live.
So lift up your hearts
Do not despair
Spread happiness and live
Show the world that you CARE.
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SHE DIDN''T MEAN IT
She didn''t mean to spill that drink
She didn''t mean to choke on it
It doesn''t matter what you think
Compared to yours her life''s just sh**
She didn''t mean to wet the bed
The signals just don''t reach her head
She didn''t mean to get annoyed with you
With her MS you''d be annoyed too
If you ever think YOUR life''s a mess
REMEMBER
SHE DIDN''T MEAN TO GET MS.
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Posted by wendy on Wednesday, June 04, 2008 @ 19:15:56 BST
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Wendy, Moira Goodey Manager of Norwich Mind, Rach, Pam,
Philippa Russell Head of the Standing Commission on Carers. Ivan Lewis the Care Minister.
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The meeting came about because in January this year a member’s husband died and within 10 days she received a letter from the DWP saying that they were sorry to hear of her loss but she needed to make an appointment to visit the office about going back to work. This lady is 58, severely disabled and her GP has told her she will never work again. As a group we were so incensed that I began to email the office of Ivan Lewis, The Care Minister until eventually a meeting was arranged. A few of us from our website decided we would like to go and talk about some of the difficulties for carers in 2008. One member travelled from Teesside and two from Norwich and one from London.
On 30th April we met Ivan Lewis in Westminster and instead of half an hour we were with him for well over an hour. We took our Chill4us Care Watch report which was an accumulation of our members concerns and difficulties.
Wendy spoke about the member whose husband had died and we were told that this would be referred back to the DWP. We suggested that there needed to be a time lapse of up to 12 months for carers after the person they care for has died. I told him of my concerns for carers living in rural areas and asked when the 24 free phone help line would come into force. We were told not until at least the middle of 2009
Moira Goodey the Manager of Norwich Mind spoke at great length about carer assessments and the lack of help after an assessment. Also she spoke about the difficulties that a carer will face because of the new 10p tax ruling.
Pam said….We deserve Respite, Recognition, Remuneration and , Respect. Carers desperately need respite from their caring role. This means good quality respite and not, for example, an agency worker walking our son or daughter around a supermarket for something to do because there are no weekend day services available in the local authority. Direct Payments are not the answer to respite for all carers. Good quality, suitable respite and an increased Carer’s Allowance are top of the priorities Desperation is a carer’s lot. Desperation is not too strong a word. Initiatives, strategies and modernisation, while meant to improve services or reduce them, mean more work and less help for carers.
Helping carers into employment is not the answer for all carers. Alternative therapies are not the answer for all carers. They do not provide respite or practical help. Independent Living Fund’s eligibility criteria have changed, making it more difficult to access. Accessing social care is a constant battle. We face procrastination, inefficiencies, lack of services, misinformation, and incompetence, unreturned ‘phone calls, cancelled or late arrival at appointments, lack of flexibility and very little carer involvement in planning services. Carers feel that even when a box is ticked to indicate a carer was involved it usually means minimal involvement for the purpose of ticking said box.
Rachel spoke about…….Direct Payments Direct payments have made a big difference to the lives of both carers and their loved ones. We urge the government to acknowledge that:
• Direct payments are not suitable for everyone
• Social Services should not pressure people into taking direct payments
• Local Authorities should be instructed to ensure provision of care services provided remain in place
• Direct payments rarely provide the level of assistance for which they are prescribed
• The hourly rate given through direct payments should be enough to employ an agency worker for an hour, and include provision for weekend and bank holiday assistance.
Why direct payments are not the only answer-- The hourly rate given as direct payment does not cover the hourly rates of agencies, meaning less assistance is received than the payments are provided for. Assistance on bank holidays and frequently weekends cannot be paid for, as hourly rates are higher at these times and these cannot be afforded through direct payments. Councils in many areas, purchase the majority, if not all of local private service capacity. Where do carers find people to employ? Statutory sick pay and maternity pay must be given where appropriate, meaning that very little of direct payment is left to pay for assistance. Direct payments cannot be used to enlist the services of a family member living in the same house although these are often the people best placed to provide assistance. Giving carers the option to use direct payments is a great idea, but where does the respite care come from so that carers can actually use the payments? Direct payments can be made net of the charges carers are expected to pay towards their assistance. This assessment may not be correct, the carer may not have agreed with the information used to make the assessment, and yet the direct payment is reduced at source, leaving the carer unable to pay for your assistance. If a carer decides to become an employer, the administrative burden is great, time-consuming and worrying.
If they decide to use an agency to help with the payroll, this is costly and can reduce the amount of assistance they can purchase with their direct payments if they have to pay the agency.
Social workers are under pressure from managers to push direct payments and not provide care services. Some quotes from government advice leaflets on direct payments; “Each council will implement direct payments in its own way.” Why is this necessary? It reduces the obligation on councils to use them in the way they are intended. “You may find it helpful to use a specialised payroll service.” Carers are incredibly over worked, often stressed and frequently depressed. Should they be subject to a system that actually suggests the added burden of dealing with a payroll agency, not to mention the cost?
Mr Lewis said that the Carers Strategy would not be announced until the summer and would not be in Carers Week.
On 2nd May Moira and Wendy visited Mr Norman Lamb, The Shadow Health Minister for the Liberal Democrats and raised some of these issues with him. He wrote a letter to Mr Lewis to ask what action would be taken regarding some of the issues that had been raised. Mr Lamb also wrote to Alistair Darling the Chancellor to ask what changes were to be made regarding the difficulties that carers who are in employment face re the extra 10p tax burden. We felt that both Mr Lewis and Mr Lamb listened and had the best intentions for carers and we have since been informed that Mr Lewis was impressed with the amount or work that had been put into the visit by all the carers present.
We are awaiting a meeting to be arranged with the Shadow Health Minister, Stephen O’Brien which again will be in London. These events took a considerable amount of effort from each carer to arrange for respite and transport, etc. The members of Chill4 spent a great deal of time submitting their points of view for the Chill4Care Watch. We are grateful for the support that we received from everyone.
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1.On 16th October 2007 a member spoke in the Houses of Parliament at the All Party Parliamentary Group for Carers.
Carers are in crisis and want actions to be taken urgently. Here are some proposals.
Do away with the overlapping benefits rule
Carers allowance to be increased
More respite to be available and when it is arranged it is not cancelled at the last minute.
Free prescriptions and glasses for carers
A heating allowance for carers because they dread the cold weather and the subsequent bills.
Care in the community is suitable for majority of people but each case should be assessed individually to ensure each person is treated for their needs. Health professionals should not go by the cheap option.
Elderly citizens need care and respect but they don’t get it because they are classed as unprofitable. Yet they gave us the society we have today.
We need a realistic TV documentary to be shown to raise awareness, something like the Cathy Come Home programme shown many years ago.
Carers are the forgotten ones and yet as you all know they save the country £87billion. It may seem easy to say these words, but when you see the reality, I’m sure it would upset you as much as it does me. From the last census we can assume there are carers who have not been included in these statistics, the hidden carers of our society, because they do not think of themselves as carers.
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2.Westminster trip highlights carers woes
KIM BRISCOE
15 June 2008 17:00
A woman from Norfolk has been to Westminster to try and highlight the plight of a carer who was told she needed to go back to work just 10 days after her husband died.
Wendy Maxwell, who founded the carers' website Chill4us in 2006, led a delegation of members of the site to meet MP Ivan Lewis, who is the government minister for care services.
Now North Norfolk MP Norman Lamb has taken up their cause and said he was appalled to hear of the case of a carer from Nuneaton who received a letter just 10 days after her husband died.
It referred to her “change of circumstances” and asked her to visit an office so they could discuss her return to work
Mr Lamb, who is also the Liberal Democrat spokesman on health, said: “It's traumatic enough to lose someone but to then be told in a cold and clinical way that your allowance is coming to an end and you have to travel somewhere to talk about getting back to work is awful.
“That person suffered a lot of distress as well as anxiety of losing a financial concession.
“We are asking that in these circumstances there is some financial cushion following the death of their loved one, and some time lag so that they can help an individual get back on their feet.”
Mr Lamb said the feedback he had from carers, particularly during National Carers' Week last week, was that more respite care was needed.
Mrs Maxwell, who is a carer herself, is now hoping to meet the shadow Conservative spokesman on health, so that the three main political parties are aware of the issues faced by carers.
She said: “I felt angry that this member of our site, who is from Nuneaton and does not want to be named, was sent this letter in January, just 10 days after her husband died. That's why I wanted to speak to Ivan Lewis.
“I think carers should be listened to and valued. We were lucky to meet Mr Lewis and I think we made an impact. He normally speaks to carers en masse or to carers' groups so he found it useful to meet a small group of carers themselves.”
The carers were accompanied by Moira Goodey, the manager of the carer support department at Norwich Mind, on their trip to quiz the minister on what he would do to provide more help for people in their position.
Mrs Goodey said: “Carers can become ill, severely depressed and stressed resulting from issues because of their caring role.
“There has been legislation to improve the rights of carers but that needs to be followed up with funding.
“I'd like to see some tax credit for carers, many of whom are not able to work full-time because of their caring roles and so are not eligible for tax credits.”
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