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Dare to Believe
By: Author Unknown
EVERYBODY KNOWS ...
You can''t be all things to all people.
You can''t do all things at once.
You can''t do all things equally well.
You can''t do all things better than everyone else.
Your humanity is showing just like everyone else''s.
SO ...
You have to find out who you are, and be that.
You have to decide what comes first, and do that.
You have to discover your strengths, and use them.
You have to learn not to compete with others,
Because no one else is in the contest of "being you."
THEN ...
You will have learned to accept your own uniqueness.
You will have learned to set priorities and make decisions.
You will have learned to live with your limitations.
You will have learned to give yourself the respect that is due,
And you''ll be a most vital mortal.
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DARE TO BELIEVE ...
That you are a wonderful, unique person.
That you are a once-in-all-history event.
That it''s more than a right, it''s your duty, to be who you are.
That life is not a problem to solve, but a gift to cherish.
And you''ll be able to stay one up on what used to get you down.
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I love my job, I love no pay!
I love it more and more each day.
I love making tea and biscuits galore,
Social workers, I simply adore.
I love my house and its location; I never get to have a vacation.
I love my furniture, drab and grey, and piles of paper that grow each day!
I think my job is really swell, there's nothing else I love so well.
I love to work with other carers, I love their leers, and jeers, and sneers.
I love my computer and its software; I hug it often though it won't care.
I love each program and every file. I’d love them more if they worked a while. I’m happy to be here. I am. I am.
I'm the happiest carer in the world, I am. I love this work, I love these chores. I love the meetings with deadly bores.
I love my job - I'll say it again - I even love those friendly men.
Those friendly men who've come today, in clean white coats to take me away!!!!!
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“Imagination”
Imagine a new understanding
We’ve waited patiently now for years
The pain we’ve suffered through STIGMA
Has created a river of tears
Imagine holding our heads up high
No more whisperings-secrets or lies
Lets bare the soul of Mental Distress
No more need for it’s meagre disguise
Imagine that Carer’s talk openly
We don’t hide behind assumed names
We talk about loved ones with pride and respect
Long gone are the feelings of shame
Imagine a new understanding
Equal amounts of compassion
Get well cards-flowers-comforting words
Will never again be on ration
Imagine that reporters change the way that they write
Words like Schitzo and Psycho are finally kept out of sight
Imagine a new understanding
No more alienation from the norm
Imagine that new generations
Are educated from the day they are born
Imagine our neighbours welcoming us
No more protests as to where we reside
Social inclusion won’t be an illusion
Imagine the lift to our pride
It’s time 4 change it’s time for the truth
To relieve decades of painful frustration
Imagine we make this a reality
Not a figment of IMAGINATION.
Georgina Wakefield
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Life after Death |
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Life after Death
Now I''m retired
And lost my wife
What shall I do
With the rest of my life?
I''ve been thro'' the mill
And suffered the pain
I''ve learnt about stress
Frustration and strain.
I''ll use the knowledge
Now I''ve passed the test
To help all those
Who are lost and bereft.
My love has flown
To her celestial nest
My beloved spouse
Is now at rest.
My heart was dead
My brain distraught,
Full of sorrow
I cared for nought.
But then a voice
From deep inside
Said "Love one another"
Let me be your guide.
My heart is now full
Of the joy I can give
To those who have suffered
And need a reason to live.
So lift up your hearts
Do not despair
Spread happiness and live
Show the world that you CARE.
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SHE DIDN''T MEAN IT
She didn''t mean to spill that drink
She didn''t mean to choke on it
It doesn''t matter what you think
Compared to yours her life''s just sh**
She didn''t mean to wet the bed
The signals just don''t reach her head
She didn''t mean to get annoyed with you
With her MS you''d be annoyed too
If you ever think YOUR life''s a mess
REMEMBER
SHE DIDN''T MEAN TO GET MS.
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Don't force people to work after the age of 65 |
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Posted by wendy -
on Monday, August 23, 2010 @ 14:51:15 BST |
Don't force people to work after the age of 65
11:00am Monday 23rd August 2010
A CARER who is soon to become a pensioner says people should not be forced to work beyond the age of 65.
Ron Chambers, chairman of the Worcestershire Pensioners’ Action Group, said he supported the right to work beyond the age of 65 but said people should not be forced to do so by the Government.
The Government is currently considering how to phase out the default retirement age of 65.
Mr Chambers, a former chef of St George’s Walk, Barbourne, Worcester, who retired 16 years ago to be a full-time carer for his disabled wife Judy, said: “I think things are going to get a lot worse for the pensioners. I’m 65 next year and I’m a carer.
“I will have my carers allowance of £53 a week stopped because the Government does not consider a carer’s allowance as a wage.
“I have got nothing against people wanting to work after 65, but I have problems with forcing people to work.
“If people started working at 16 and 17 and work until they are 65 I think they have done their whack.”
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Getting It Right: NHS pledges to work for better care |
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Posted by wendy -
on Monday, August 23, 2010 @ 12:36:02 BST |
Getting It Right: NHS pledges to work for better care
19 August 2010
Two major NHS organisations in Norfolk have pledged themselves to a new charter to improve healthcare for people with learning disabilities and learning difficulties.
 NHS Norfolk and the Norfolk and Norwich University Hospitals NHS Foundation Trust (NNUH) have both signed up to "Getting It Right", drawn up by Mencap which aims to ensure the patients it represents get the healthcare they have a right to - on terms they understand and are comfortable with.
Stephen McCormack, NHS Norfolk's Mental Health Commissioning Manager has driven through a range of improvements at NHS Norfolk which were recently commended by the Strategic Health Authority - alongside the work which he has undertaken in paertnership with other stakeholder through Norfolk LD Partnership Board.
Stephen said: "We have done much good work within NHS Norfolk and with our partners but we know there is more work we can do to better support patients with learning difficulties. This was recognised at the most recent NHS Norfolk Board meeting.
"By signing up to Getting It Right we are therefore making a further public commitment to continue this work throughout NHS Norfolk."
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MP warns cuts threaten help for carers |
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Posted by wendy -
on Saturday, July 31, 2010 @ 19:37:18 BST |
MP warns cuts threaten help for carers
6:00pm Saturday 31st July 2010
DAVID Cameron’s Big Society vision could be hit by County Hall cuts to organisations which support carers, Banbury MP Tony Baldry has warned.
The Conservative MP said the Big Society policies drawn up by Prime Minister Mr Cameron, the MP for Witney, recognised the importance of volunteers and carer centres in delivering key services.
But such organisations were now facing cuts in funding from Oxfordshire County Council, said Mr Baldry.
He said: “I’m concerned at what appears to be a potential and, I suspect, entirely unintended conflict between the Coalition Government’s desire to promote the Big Society and the coalition’s necessity to cut the budget deficit.”
He said Oxfordshire’s carers’ centres relied on both volunteers and paid staff.
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Carers can't afford to lose any more |
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Posted by wendy -
on Sunday, June 20, 2010 @ 10:46:11 BST |
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Carers can't afford any more cuts!
Carers already make their contribution to the state to the tune of £87bn per year.
George Osborne can look elsewhere for his cuts !
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Free Computers for Carers |
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Posted by wendy -
on Sunday, January 11, 2009 @ 20:29:05 GMT |
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www.computers4carers.co.uk
Race on Line 2012 - click here
We campaigned for Computers for Carers and it has been our delight to receive a number of lap tops which we are now busy sending out to carers.
Up to date we have been given over 100 computers for Carers which have been much appreciated. These were donated to us by well known companies, or given to us by the general public. All have been distributed free to carers all over the country.
We have been promised more in the future and we look forward to being able to help more carers reach the world wide web, if you do have a computer that is working which you know longer want then please contact us through the link at the top of the website.
Our thanks and the thanks of the recipients go to the people that have donated them , and to everyone who has made this possible.
The Chill4us Team
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The impossible Dream |
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Posted by wendy -
on Monday, November 24, 2008 @ 09:41:46 GMT |
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For Carers everywhere.
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Meeting with Stephen O'Brien MP Shadow Minister for Health |
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Posted by wendy -
on Sunday, October 26, 2008 @ 12:09:55 GMT |
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Moira Goodey Manager of Norwich Mind. Moira came with us to meet Ivan Lewis MP and Norman Lamb MP.
Stephen O'Brien MP The Shadow Minister for Health
Wendy Maxwell from Chill4Us Carers
Gordon Conochie has taken on the newly created role of policy and parliamentary officer at partner organisations Crossroads Caring for Carers and the Princess Royal Trust for Carers.
Trevor Ivory Conservative Candidate for North Norfolk
At our meeting in Westminster on 23rd October 2008 with Stephen O'Brien MP, The Shadow Minister of Health for the Conservative Party, he raised these topics.
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Our recent meetings |
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Posted by wendy -
on Wednesday, June 04, 2008 @ 19:15:56 BST |
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Wendy, Moira Goodey Manager of Norwich Mind, Rach, Pam,
Philippa Russell Head of the Standing Commission on Carers. Ivan Lewis the Care Minister.
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Parliament |
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1.On 16th October 2007 a member spoke in the Houses of Parliament at the All Party Parliamentary Group for Carers.
Carers are in crisis and want actions to be taken urgently. Here are some proposals.
Do away with the overlapping benefits rule
Carers allowance to be increased
More respite to be available and when it is arranged it is not cancelled at the last minute.
Free prescriptions and glasses for carers
A heating allowance for carers because they dread the cold weather and the subsequent bills.
Care in the community is suitable for majority of people but each case should be assessed individually to ensure each person is treated for their needs. Health professionals should not go by the cheap option.
Elderly citizens need care and respect but they don’t get it because they are classed as unprofitable. Yet they gave us the society we have today.
We need a realistic TV documentary to be shown to raise awareness, something like the Cathy Come Home programme shown many years ago.
Carers are the forgotten ones and yet as you all know they save the country £87billion. It may seem easy to say these words, but when you see the reality, I’m sure it would upset you as much as it does me. From the last census we can assume there are carers who have not been included in these statistics, the hidden carers of our society, because they do not think of themselves as carers.
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2.Westminster trip highlights carers woes
KIM BRISCOE
15 June 2008 17:00
A woman from Norfolk has been to Westminster to try and highlight the plight of a carer who was told she needed to go back to work just 10 days after her husband died.
Wendy Maxwell, who founded the carers' website Chill4us in 2006, led a delegation of members of the site to meet MP Ivan Lewis, who is the government minister for care services.
Now North Norfolk MP Norman Lamb has taken up their cause and said he was appalled to hear of the case of a carer from Nuneaton who received a letter just 10 days after her husband died.
It referred to her “change of circumstances” and asked her to visit an office so they could discuss her return to work
Mr Lamb, who is also the Liberal Democrat spokesman on health, said: “It's traumatic enough to lose someone but to then be told in a cold and clinical way that your allowance is coming to an end and you have to travel somewhere to talk about getting back to work is awful.
“That person suffered a lot of distress as well as anxiety of losing a financial concession.
“We are asking that in these circumstances there is some financial cushion following the death of their loved one, and some time lag so that they can help an individual get back on their feet.”
Mr Lamb said the feedback he had from carers, particularly during National Carers' Week last week, was that more respite care was needed.
Mrs Maxwell, who is a carer herself, is now hoping to meet the shadow Conservative spokesman on health, so that the three main political parties are aware of the issues faced by carers.
She said: “I felt angry that this member of our site, who is from Nuneaton and does not want to be named, was sent this letter in January, just 10 days after her husband died. That's why I wanted to speak to Ivan Lewis.
“I think carers should be listened to and valued. We were lucky to meet Mr Lewis and I think we made an impact. He normally speaks to carers en masse or to carers' groups so he found it useful to meet a small group of carers themselves.”
The carers were accompanied by Moira Goodey, the manager of the carer support department at Norwich Mind, on their trip to quiz the minister on what he would do to provide more help for people in their position.
Mrs Goodey said: “Carers can become ill, severely depressed and stressed resulting from issues because of their caring role.
“There has been legislation to improve the rights of carers but that needs to be followed up with funding.
“I'd like to see some tax credit for carers, many of whom are not able to work full-time because of their caring roles and so are not eligible for tax credits.”
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